I have to vent tonight… I have a bit of a hard time dealing with people that are VERY negative minded, especially those that don’t know how to look at some of the good things people do for them, but always feel the need to complain about those said people. With that being said when it comes to a relationship or co-parenting sacrifices have to be made, and I don’t think it’s fair when one person makes all the sacrifices and the other sits around complaining about it on social media.
Social media has become a great tool to be in the know, and to stay connected with those around you. The problem with having so much influence from social media is some people feel the need to make Facebook their private journal, in other words they air everything out on it. Now it’s one thing to air everything out on a social platform like a blog or Facebook when you’re trying to show people the reality of a situation, ex: parenting. But I do truly believe that it’s another story if you’re airing your laundry in order to complain consistently about someone or are looking for sympathy. Parenting is freaking hard, and yes sometimes us parents could use a little sympathy about whatever our situation is. But social media is not where you go for that.
For those of us with children and who are in a relationship, yes we could easily go on social media complaining about our partners because if you’re a mother more than likely you carry more weight of the child/house responsibilities. Take me for example! Depending on when my boyfriend goes to bed Sunday, I essentially become the only caregiver at home for our daughter from Monday morning to Friday afternoon/evening. As I’ve said before he works night shift on a 12 hour schedule, so from the time he gets home that morning, he sleeps until about the time he has to go back to work that evening. Is it an ideal schedule for a family? No. But it is our reality and it is what makes the money, so I would never fault him for that. Do I get frustrated that I feel like he’s not pulling his weight at home? Yes, probably the most on weekends because we do everything 50/50 which means I’m not really getting a break, but neither is he because he has a baby too. Could I complain about him? Yes, but neither one of us are perfect. Any woman who is a wife and a mother knows the frustration of always feeling like everything is up to you. At the same time I would never expect him to change what he’s worked hard for and helps us pay the bills. Although I get annoyed and frustrated, he goes days only seeing his daughter for 1 hour max I can’t imagine how crappy that feels when I get to spend so much time with her.
The whole point of this post is because I know people who constantly post on social media about how the father of their child doesn’t pull his weight. Being a single-mother is hard, my boyfriend’s mother was one and she kicked some serious ass being one. He respects her and has so much admiration for his mom because of how strong she was during the time she was on her own, and they had a father that didn’t pull any weight when it came to them. All mother’s could complain about the father of their children, but if he’s making an effort, I don’t see the need to spend your time on social media bashing them as parents.
Not to say it only happens this way because it definitely can happen the other way around. This is just the current example I’m venting about.